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- Be happy. People like happy people. Particularly, on a first date, try to show your happy side! Do not arrive angry or in a bad mood about something that happened earlier, nothing is more off putting. Arrive looking as if you expect to enjoy yourself and you are pleased to be with your Date.
- Flatter each other. People enjoy compliments. But be sincere – if you can’t find something to like then why are you there? So tell him or her you like the shirt or the way they have done their hair. And accept a compliment gracefully – say thank you and don’t brush it off. Compliments will make you both focus on the positive and it always feels good to make someone else feel good.
- Dates are not agony aunts. Friends were made for listening but not Dates. You can ask the other person for advice, but please don’t pour your heart out. This applies particularly to stories about previous lost loves.
- Don’t take it personally. People get nervous on dates. Sometimes they say things they later regret. Allow for this and don’t take anything on a first date too seriously.
- Know when to drop it. If your date changes the subject when you try talking about a particular subject, take the hint! This applies particularly if you are talking about something personal or looking for reassurance. Don’t feel hurt they are just not ready to deal with that yet, so move on.
- Listen attentively but come to talk. People like to be listened to, so give your date space to talk to you. Don’t interrupt and listen and show interest. But think about things to talk about (music, films, books) before you arrive. People like you to ask them questions but don’t ask anything too personal to early on!
- Smile. People like people who smile – so smile often. Show how pleased you are to be there!
Wendy Mason works as a Coach, Consultant and Writer.
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She works with all kinds of people going through many different kinds of personal and career change, particularly those;
- looking for work
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- moving between Public and Private Sectors
- facing redundancy
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