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If you are aware of your own and other people's behavior, then you have most of the essential building blocks for confidence. But first, let us consider confidence a little further!
What is confidence?
The word “confidence” comes from Latin and it meant to put your faith in someone.
Well, that is a good place to start. Really, to have confidence is to have faith in yourself and your own abilities! But knowing that doesn’t tell you enough and it certainly doesn’t tell you how to get it.
So let us look for some clues - how do we spot confident people!
Spotting confident people!
- Look out for people who;
- Believe in themselves and feel at ease taking action.
- Speak calmly and listen properly.
- Act assertively but never aggressively.
- Are flexible, ready to accommodate new information and make changes in response to it.
- Praise others sincerely and can take constructive criticism without reacting negatively.
- Know who they are, appreciate their achievements but can recognise and accept their own faults.
- Learn from their mistakes.
- Are not run by 'should', 'must' and 'ought to’; they feel they have influence over what happens to them and those about them.
- Greet an opportunity with 'Why not?' rather than 'Why? Or a ‘Not right now!'
Where does confidence come from?
Well, psychologist Gary Fitzgibbons says “Confidence is within all of us, but whether it shines through or remains hidden can depend on how we are treated as children and young adults." It's not for nothing that people say 'show me the girl at seven and I'll show you the woman'.
Well, psychologist Gary Fitzgibbons says “Confidence is within all of us, but whether it shines through or remains hidden can depend on how we are treated as children and young adults." It's not for nothing that people say 'show me the girl at seven and I'll show you the woman'.
But if you were not one of those lucky people endowed with confidence by your circumstances, you can change. That change is the reason this website has been set up! Over the next few months you are going to find lots of posts, pages and other resources here to help you.
Wendy Mason knows about confidence. She works with all kinds of people going through many different kinds of personal and career change and those who just want to increase their confidence. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com or ring ++44 (0)2084610114. She offers coaching by phone and Skype as well as Face to Face.
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